Wedding planning... when you read that, did your heart rate rise a little?
I sure hope not!!
But if it did and you're feeling a little anxious, you're going to want to read below.
1. This will probably be stressful!
& That's ok!! I know you didn't come here to be reminded that you are stressed out, I get it! Almost every one you talk to will tell you that planning a wedding is stressful. But, it is all about how you are handling this stress! Do not let it take you over, it will ruin the journey of your wedding.
If wedding planning actually makes you want to pull your hair out, consider hiring a wedding planner. I know that it can be a big expense but there are so many amazing options out there that can probably fit in your budget and this might actually make you enjoy the process a bit more!
2. Remember to have fun!
Through all of the stress of the planning and the actual wedding day, you need to remember to have fun! If that means that you need to tick off a bunch of to do's after a long hard day at work, turn on your favorite jams, get a glass of wine, sit down and knock that shiz out!
It is so important to realize when you are stressed and when you need to ask for help or take a break. Have you thought about asking a friend to come over for dinner and knock off some tasks together? I'm so sure that you will enjoy it even more with your loved ones by your side. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it!
3. It is you and your lovey's day!
If you want pink roses, if he wants a white suit, if you guys don't want cake, It is YOUR freaking day! In 40 years from now, you will be so happy that you chose the right things for YOU GUYS!
We all need to learn to break free from that feeling of wanting to please everyone. Here's a truth-bomb, you will not please everyone, ever! Especially not on such an important day. Do what you need to do to make this day everything you want it to be (within budget; more on that later!!)
4. Remember to enjoy it together!
I know we always say it, but seriously, enjoy the journey. Hopefully, this will be your only wedding and the planning it is a huge part of the process. Here is your reminder to spend some time together and know when you guys need to step back and just be a regular couple again, not fiance's planning a "once in a lifetime" day!!
Try your hardest to stick to date nights once a week that don't involve any wedding planning, they can be cheap things like cooking dinner together and watching a movie on Netflix or doing a puzzle. Pulling your mind away from the craziness and relaxing with your partner will help you remember your reason why during this craziness!
5. Stick to your budget!
Most people don't want to talk about budgets and all the mumbo-jumbo of numbers. Be strict with your budget and get comfortable with talking about money, with everyone!! Often times, during the wedding process, people go over budgets. It just happens and that's ok, but we want to prevent this! The last thing you want is to be stuck years down the road because you are drowning in debt from an 8 hour day, 10 years ago.
I read Dave Ramsey's book "The Total Money Makeover" and I tell just about everyone about it. It totally changed the way I saw debt! Spend some time reading this book together. Then, look over your budget and see where you can save a few pennies here and there. Think about all that you can do with that money later, helloooooo European vacay!!
Weddings can be SO fun!
If you take away one thing from what I've talked about day, remember that you should try to enjoy every step of the way together. At the end of the day, you will be married and that is what is really important!